Whenever someone asks me what it’s like being a mum I say something along the lines of “it’s really hard, but also amazing”.
Generally people are shocked by this. I think they expect me to gush about it being the most magical thing, and everything I ever dreamt and more, and that every day is better than the last.
But the truth is that it is hard. The hardest thing I have ever done. It’s relentless, you don’t ever get a minute off. If they are sleeping you are trapped in the house and waiting for them to wake. If they are being looked after by someone else your mind is still filled with them. Are they okay, do they need anything, do we have enough nappies, what are we going to feed them for dinner?
But, it is also true that it is amazing. Being a mum is the most rewarding thing in the world. I have this little boy who needs and loves me, who looks up to me and wants to be by my side. I have this little boy to love forever and to create memories with. I have a chance to make so many ‘firsts’ and to see the world through a new, tiny set of eyes.
I think we can feel guilty for admiting the hard times, the times that we have cried because they just won’t sleep. The times we have shouted out loud because we have already calmly told them ‘not to do that’ a hundred times.
No one wants to be that person and I feel kinda wierd for posting this. Should I admit my mum flaws?
I try to keep it real in insta captions so that people can see it’s not all sunshine and rainbows but my photos are only lovely ones.
I also don’t know how single mums do it. You are all incredible. One of my friends is a single, self employed mum and a huge inspiration. I couldn’t have got through my pregnancy, birth and parenting without Dunc by my side.
I guess I don’t really know where I’m going with this post, other than to say to all the parents out there, you are amazing and you are enough and to not feel like you are alone after a tough day. There are so many others out there finding it difficult. But that just makes the happy moments even more special.